How to support a grieving widow?

  • Send Care Packages

    • Help your friend or family member feel special with sweet care packages sent at random times throughout the year.​

    • Include self-care items like bath salts, lotions, and facial masks to help her relax. 

    • Send journals or relatable inspirational books with her favorite snacks or drinks

  • Make a Standing Date Night

    • Pick a day out of the month or week and ask if it can be a standing "date" for you and your friend or family member.​

    • Stay consistent. 

    • Don't put so much pressure on going somewhere. Sometimes the company is needed over the venue or outing.

  • Suggest Ways to Help Rather Than Ask

    • To help them out, try not to say, “What can I do to help?” Instead try, “I’d like to come over on Saturday afternoon to weed your garden. Is that ok?”

    • As a widow, in the thick of grief, sometimes we forget what we need. The wording goes a long way.

  • Mark Your Calendar with those Important Dates

    • Send a card, call/text, or show up to their home on those special dates:

      • Anniversaries ​

      • Birthdays

      • Holidays

      • Angelversarys/Dates their spouse passed away

  • Share memories, videos, or picture

    • By continuing the legacy, it makes a widow not feel so alone.  Remembering their loved ones makes them not feel alone.

    • You may think if you bring them up, it will upset the widow.  Truth is, the widow is most likely thinking of life, their spouse/partner, or the "what should be"-so by talking about them doesn't upset them. Instead it probably makes them feel good about hearing someone us think of their person.

What not to say to a widow

  • It was their time

  • Your young, you'll get married again

  • I know what it's like. I've been divorced

  • Provide Compassion, Not Pity

  • You're still crying over their death?

  • Be grateful for the time you were married

  • You must stay strong for your children

  • Don’t feel bad, your spouse is no longer in pain

  • Everything happens for a reason

  • What are your plans for their personal belongings?

  • I know what you’re going through (then start talking about your own loss)

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